As busy moms, we often reflect on how grateful we are to have grown up in simpler times. We could be kids. We could be present and in the moment. Most days, summers were spent outdoors rollerblading, biking, playing tag, and just enjoying the here and now…remember that? Now, it isn’t just our children who spend most of their days with their eyes fixated on a screen.
The truth is that the world has changed. We’re living in a society that moves from one thing to the next rapidly. Having technology and knowing how to use it is essential, but it keeps us from living in the moment the way that we used to.
See the World Through Your Own Eyes
Something that isn’t new is how much we love capturing the moment, especially the tender moments in our family. The difference is, we used to take photos with polaroid cameras and then got back to what was in front of our eyes. Now, we’re recording and taking photo after photo, staring at the world through a lens at all times.
This doesn’t mean you should just stop taking pictures altogether, I love taking pics for sure. Just set the phone down for a second and immerse yourself in time spent with loved ones. While we’re busy trying to get the perfect shot, life is passing us by and we’re missing it!
It’s understandable that you may want some great, professional photos for special events. So, go ahead and hire someone or give a friend an opportunity to do some freelance work for your birthday parties and BBQ’s. This way you can relax, and enjoy your children while they’re still children.
Protect the Early Morning Hours at All Cost
You’ll hear it again and again, the most successful people are up early, and this isn’t just an arbitrary behavior. Those precious few hours at the start of your day play a crucial role in how focused you’ll be as you move into the afternoon. For starters, stop scrolling through social media when you wake up.
It’s tempting, but it offers no benefit and often sets you behind even if you are awake on time. Instead, use the first 30 minutes to read the daily devotion or listen to an audiobook on subjects that interest you. When you start off with self-improvement and personal enrichment rather than a music playlist or hot celebrity gossip, it sets the tone for the rest of the day.
It gives us a spark of motivation while getting us through the hard stuff, like exercising and dropping the kids off at school, with more confidence and less worry. You’ll be able to attend your meetings and focus on work without trying to figure out how to squeeze in a workout before picking up the kids and getting dinner ready.
Stop Trying to Be a Perfect Pageant Mom
The world seems to be more critical of women and mothers than anyone else. So it makes sense that we spend so much of our time stressing about whether or not we’re doing this the right way. Are our kids eating the right foods? Are they getting enough exercise? Do they come to us when they need help or when they need someone to talk to? What does it say about us as moms when our kids are walking around in a dirty shirt?
While it’s certainly normal to have these thoughts, don’t allow them to consume and take over the moments that are supposed to be fun and relaxing for you and your family. Is eating cereal for dinner the best? No, but the truth is that your kids are still going to thrive. If you have them grab a bowl of cereal for dinner every once in a while, don’t beat yourself up. If they are in sports, there is always a chance that they could be injured no matter how good the gear is or how well-trained they are. Let me ask you this, have you ever spilled something on your shirt and ended up having to walk around the rest of the day with the stain?
These are just the normal things that you have to deal with. Your children will eventually have to figure out how to deal with it on their own.
For now, stop worrying about trying to make everything perfect and cherish the imperfect moments! When you’re at their games, cheer them on and make sure that you’re actually watching. Don’t just be recording on your phone. If the youngest happens to drop their sippy cup and now has a big red blob on their pants from their juice, well it happens… and it’s ok!
Life is not always clean, convenient, or even safe, but at the end of the day, we all find a way to manage. You don’t have to be perfect to get it right, just try to be present.
Fitness & Mindset Coach
Wife & Mom of 5
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